Jealousy - The poison thorn in a rose

Jealousy is perhaps the most cruel of the seven deadly sins (envy). The feeling of envy is just natural and something one can no control over . regardless of who is making you jealous! It might be your friend , colleague or even someone you love with all your heart , it just doesn't matter. Its a matter of perspective of the person really. One can be inspired by the envy he/she is facing , or can be so frustrated that he just cant stand it! Its not that the person who's making you jealous is trying to do it intentionally(at least most of the times) but when he/she does so it becomes so hard to bear that all the frustration just comes out even if you don't want it to! Most of the times its not what made you jealous that causes the frustration but the failure of the person who's making you jealous to realize that he/she is doing so. You might say that "You can just point it out that you get envious when you bring that topic up", but does it really work that way? Most of the times it leads to disastrous consequences . After all the person is just being who he/she wants to be and if you have a problem with it , they are obviously going to feel bad that you don't respect their sentiments.

And it works the other way too , where the person who's getting jealous is not doing it on purpose. i could be aspiration , longing for space or even insecurity that causes jealousy, but my point is its not exactly in the hands of a person when he gets jealous! It works the same way with every creature in this world.

So who exactly is to be blamed here?

One might argue that the person who is causing the jealousy should realize that he might have hurt the other by saying something or doing something that he did.But how often can he do so? Its his right to say or do whatever he likes.

Another might argue that its the jealous person who should keep it to himself. That's not always possible is it? Speech and expression are basic rights for a human being and he will undoubtedly oblige them.

The real solution is that there should exist a balance between both.One should know what to say or do and how to do it , while the other should know how to control himself and in worst case-scenarios how to react in a civilized manner. THAT is the solution in my opinion.

Usually jealousy or misunderstandings are what cause relationships to break. Hence the title

There was an article in a daily newspaper a few days back where a wife had gone to collect an award for her husbands achievement (as the husband was unable to do so due to undisclosed reasons). When she returned back home , her joy was short-lived cause her husband didn't let her inside the house on the terms that she was accompanied by other male individuals during the trip . Here the male companions were actually the officials of the award ceremony.

Later , it was found out that the man was jealous, not cause he didn't get to the ceremony , but cause his wife was with other men.

This rather comical article shows that the it takes the smallest gesture to set of sentiments and emotions in a drastic and catastrophic way!

This sort of highlights the point about how such a situation should be balanced.

Truth is jealousy is a part of every person and it can be controlled provided there is co-operation on both sides.

As poisonous as jealousy maybe , there is an antidote and that's what we should work for!